The default coordinator
You became the family’s point person without a vote. Care90 gives you the system so it doesn’t all live in your head.
The Care90 System · Book One
The diagnosis is days old.
Everyone assumes you’re handling it.
A calm, practical 90-day organizing plan for adult children and families right after a parent’s dementia or serious diagnosis. No medical advice, no guilt, no 400-page textbook — just a place for the next right thing to land.
Available on Amazon — Kindle & paperback. Or start today with the free First 7 Calls planner.
The first week
If you’re reading this, you’re probably in some version of that parked car after the appointment — engine off, phone lighting up, a folded sheet of paper you half remember being handed on the seat beside you. Underneath the noise there are usually four quiet fears.
- I’m going to miss something.
- I don’t know what actually matters today.
- Everyone assumes I’m handling it.
- I can’t become the entire system.
You are not going to solve the illness this week. You can build a place for the next right thing to land.
That is the whole job of the first week. Not a perfect plan — a place to put things, so a new fact stops being a crisis and becomes just an entry. Care90 walks you through it, one calm step at a time.
The 90-day map
One page to get your bearings.
Not the full plan — just where the next ninety days are headed. Start wherever you are: one call, one appointment, one week at a time.
- 01 First 7 days
Steady the ground
Stabilize the immediate days. Gather the paperwork into one place. Schedule the calls and appointments that cannot wait — and write down the questions you don’t want to forget.
- 02 Days 8–30
Build the system
Set up one care binder. Make the early calls without starting from zero each time. Prepare for appointments so they count twice. Give family specific jobs, not vague worry.
- 03 Days 31–60
Find the rhythm
Turn paperwork into a queue. Search for help without becoming a procurement department. Run the Weekly Sweep to spot open loops and decide what to ask, file, or follow up on next.
- 04 Days 61–90
Protect & look ahead
Set boundaries that hold. Review what is working and adjust. Prepare calmly for the next stage.
- 90 days, one calm plan
- 12 chapters, each with a tool
- 12 printable tools
- 5 common-case quick-starts
What’s inside
Twelve chapters. Twelve tools you can actually print.
Each chapter ends with a card you can keep. The back of the book holds the full Toolkit — worksheets, call scripts, and one-page organizers for notes, paperwork, and questions (not clinical tools) — plus Common Cases that point you to the right starting place for five real situations.
- 1First 7 Days Triage Map
- 2Decision Firewall One-Pager
- 3Three-Bucket Diagnosis Sort
- 4Care Binder Starter
- 5EOB & Bill Decoder
- 6Phone-Tree Call Scripts
- 7Doctor Visit Loop
- 8Three Jobs, Three Asks — Family Scripts
- 9Local Help Research Matrix
- 10Home, Work & Long-Distance Tracker
- 11Weekly Care Sweep
- 12Decision Boundary Checklist
Print & keep
The back of the book is a toolkit.
Every copy includes the full Caregiver Toolkit — the twelve tools, the Cheat Deck, and five common-case quick-starts as print-and-keep worksheets, call scripts, and one-page organizers. Print the page you need, write on it, and build the care binder one page at a time.
- 12 print-and-use tools
- Cheat Deck — one card per chapter
- 5 quick-start paths
- Ink-light, home-printer friendly
Included in every copy of the book — Kindle & paperback on Amazon.
Free guides
Start with the first 90 days
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My Parent Was Just Diagnosed. What Do I Do First?
Just got the diagnosis and don't know where to start? A calm, step-by-step guide to the first 90 days: triage, organize, and the questions to ask.
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The First 90 Days Dementia Checklist (Free Printable PDF)
A free, printable First 90 Days checklist after a parent's dementia diagnosis: what to do in week one, weeks 2–4, and months 2–3 — big decisions parked.
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How to Make a Caregiver Binder (7-Section Setup You Can Build Tonight)
A step-by-step caregiver binder setup after a parent's diagnosis: the 7 sections, a supplies list, and how to build it in one evening.
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What to Ask at Your Parent's First Dementia Appointment (A Printable Question List)
A printable list of questions to ask at a parent's first dementia or memory appointment — grouped to fit a 20-minute visit. Questions to bring, not answers.
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Alzheimer's vs. Dementia: What the Difference Means When It's Your Parent
Alzheimer's and dementia aren't the same — and the difference matters for caregivers. A plain-language, sourced explainer, plus questions for the care team.
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What 2026's Alzheimer's News Means for Families: Blood Tests, New Drugs, and What to Ask
New Alzheimer's blood tests and drugs made headlines — a plain-language, sourced summary of what changed in 2025–2026, what it doesn't mean, and what to ask.
Read the guide →
Who it’s for
Written for the person who got handed the second job.
The sandwich generation
A job, a family of your own, and now this. The guide is built for people coordinating care alongside work, family, and the rest of life.
The long-distance sibling
You’re coordinating from another city. The trackers and scripts keep everyone working from the same page, not the same argument.
Questions
Before you start.
Is this medical advice?
No. Care90 is a practical organizer — it helps you structure information, prepare for appointments, and ask better questions. It does not provide medical, legal, financial, or insurance advice. For those, speak with a qualified professional. In an emergency, contact local emergency services.
Do I need to buy an app or a subscription?
No. You do not need to buy an app or a subscription to use it — the book works with the tools you already have, and it shows where something like ChatGPT can help: drafting a phone call, or turning a confusing bill into questions for the billing office.
My parent was not diagnosed with dementia. Is this still for me?
Yes. Care90 is built for the first 90 days after a parent’s serious diagnosis. Dementia is one example it follows, but the system — paperwork, appointments, questions, and family coordination — applies broadly.
What is included?
Twelve chapters, each ending in a card you can keep, plus the full Caregiver Toolkit in the back: twelve printable worksheets, a Cheat Deck with one card per chapter, and five common-case quick-starts.
What formats can I get?
Kindle and paperback on Amazon, plus a deluxe PDF edition on Gumroad. You can also start free today with the First 7 Calls planner.
Start where you are
You can’t solve it this week.
You can start it today.
My Parent Was Just Diagnosed. What Do I Do First? — the calm 90-day plan for the family that just got the news.
Kindle & paperback on Amazon · Book 1 of The Care90 System